It’s almost Valentine’s Day. Another Hallmark holiday for spending money and misunderstanding love.
I wrote a short post recently that had a positive response, but several of you asked for more. Here is more.
This is the secret to winning in the end. And–don’t miss the irony–it’s based on the most famous wedding passage about love.
“Love is patient and kind…Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance…Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete…But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless…Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely…Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.” (1 Corinthians 13)
Notice how within “the love passage”, there is a clear call to humility–admitting that we don’t always get it right. Our views, our politics, our theology, our vision, our conviction…we see things imperfectly.
In fact, there have been some famous “religious” people that have recently seen things very imperfectly. They chose a side, politically, and made it a spiritual issues. A prophetic-thus-sayeth-the-lord kind of thing. They were wrong.
But they are helpful in their poor example. We will pursue our convictions differently.
We will love first, and debate when a foundation of care has been established.
We will be kind first, and explain our point of view second.
We’ll host the meal and be generous, even toward people who question our character because their spiritual life has devolved into political dogma.
We’ll be patient and persevere in hope and faith, even though the skies are dark and blind people have tried to lead to the way.
In short, we won’t give up on love. The alternatives feel good in the moment, but they always make things worse.
Love your neighbor. Especially the one you can’t stand. Smile and do something kind. Why make matters worse when love might change the game?
Love your partner. Especially when they do that thing that drives you crazy. Are you sure your ways are the best ways? Are you sure you want to live frustrated and defeated? Can he/she be allowed to be fully loved in their differentness? Might love win the day?
Think LOVE today. Just for minute. Pause right now and think,
“What does it look like to choose love today?”
Not choosing to be right.
Not choosing division.
Not choosing sides.
Not choosing fear.
Not choosing drama.
Not choosing doctrine.
Want to be on the winning side? Love wins in the end.
Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.