You can’t ignore Valentine’s Day. It’s coming in hot, with red-minty-heart-shaped fury.
Even if you are lucky enough to have a partner who doesn’t buy into the consumer-driven-Hallmark-holiday-hype, great! But why miss an opportunity to tell your person they are special? If you don’t, it’s lazy.
Plan ahead and do something to make the other person feel seen, known, loved.
If you don’t have a date, be honest with yourself and, still, plan ahead.
If it hurts, don’t pretend it doesn’t. Talk with a trusted friend who you know will encourage you. If you’re grieving a death, use Valentine’s Day as a memorial. If there was a recent break up, get out in front of your feelings.
Plan ahead, before you’re in pain.
* Make plans with people who are going to support you, and not just get you sloppy.
* Make plans with people who are going to pump you up, and not just pimp you out.
* Make plans with yourself—if there’s no one available—and do something fun and out of the ordinary.
The point is, plan ahead.